Thursday, April 4, 2013
Sensitive Topic?
Yesterday a friend of mine showed me some cute swimsuits she had gotten for her little girls. Right after showing me she quickly apologized thinking I might feel bad since I don't have any girls. I appreciate that she was considering my feelings but it didn't make me feel bad. I told her that it didn't and that I can appreciate cute girl things. Even though I have been blessed with a crew full of boys, and would love to have a daughter too, it isn't a sensitive topic for me. I love to see all the cute girly things and imagine what a girl version of my boys would look like. I don't know if that is in the cards for us though. If you asked my husband he would say 100% no it isn't....we are DONE having kids. If you ask me I would hesitantly say I think we are done but there is still that little tugging, maybe 5% of me, that would like to try again for a girl. (Don't tell my husband I said it. He would have an anxiety attack! ;) ) I just know that I don't want to try for number 5 JUST because I want a girl. There should be a lot more reasons than that to get pregnant and that is the only reason I could think of for wanting another child. I don't think I should get pregnant strictly for that purpose. Honestly if I already had a girl I think I could say 100% that I am done. (Unless, Heavenly Father strongly told me otherwise.) Anyways, all you friends and family out there with sweet girls, I can ooh and aww at all things girl with you and it won't make me sad. Thanks to my friend for being thoughtful though. :)
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6 comments:
If you have 5 kids you'll be my new hero.
My brother would have another one if it was a girl, so would Dru's brother.
It's all a little 'sensitive' isn't it ;)
If you had a girl you would still feel like you need to have another. I have the (in my mind)perfect scenario everyone has a brother and a sister, an even number and I still wrestle with it. Mostly Eric 110% positive we can not have anymore and me feeling like someone is missing. Anytime I pray about it I get the same answer; enjoy what you have.
Having 3 boys and 1 girl, I have to say . . . girls are pretty awesome. I wish I could have another one, just using someone else's body, not mine. Since you have a fantastic body, maybe you should try for your girl. ;-) wink!
I get it. I have three girls, and we hope to have a boy someday too. However, I don't know how many we will have before we are done, and like you, I wouldn't keep having more just for a gender. All my girls and all your boys are a blessing. Your picture on Easter morning wrestling on the bed made me laugh though. My girls would come cuddle with us. They really are so different!
I have to agree with Laurie. There's still that longing for another one, no matter what. It's hard to give it up, even when you feel it is best. At the same time, if you're physically and emotionally able to do it, and have a desire why not? Maybe you can pray extra hard for a girl. :)
I echo what you're saying, (me with my all boy brood). I know I want more children (even at 35 :) knowing full well it could be more boys. It does bother me a little when people say, "Of course you should have more kids, you need to get your girl". I just smile and say, "But it will probably be a boy". And I'm perfectly happy with that.
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